Monday, 18 November 2019

A beautiful and successful journey of a young man - Office boy to Team Leader!


Although Bangladesh became an independent nation only in 1971, the land that now constitutes Bangladesh has long-standing historical and cultural ties to the Middle East.
Bangladeshis living in the Middle East make up the largest segment of the global Bangladeshi diaspora.
Most Bangladeshis who migrate to the Middle East do so as guest workers or day laborers.
According to the National Center for Statistics and Information (NCSI), as of the end of November 2016, there were 694,449 Bangladeshi nationals residing in Oman, followed by 691,775 Indians and 231,685 Pakistani expatriates.
Like other Asian expatriates, Bangladeshi workers in the Middle East primarily seek employment in the region to send remittances back to support their families.

While working on an international project in 2013, we were assigned a small room as our site office, located near the pantry. On my first day, I was unfamiliar with both the people and the office layout. I remember that whenever I passed by the pantry on my way to meetings with my manager in the engineer’s office, there was an office boy—around 21 years old, about 5’6” or 5’7” tall, fair-complexioned, dressed in a white shirt, black jacket, and blue trousers—who would often greet me with a pleasant smile ‘Good Morning Maidam’.

In return, I used to greet him back with a “Good morning” before rushing off to my meeting. When I returned to the office, I went to the pantry to make myself a cup of tea. There he was—standing by the counter, making tea for the rest of the office staff.

“Hi!” I said, introducing myself. “My name is Anuradha. What’s your good name?”

He smiled and replied, “Everyone calls me Mitoo. You can call me that too—no problem.”

“Hmm… Mitoo,” I repeated.

“Mitoo means sweet — and it’s easy to pronounce too. Nice name!”

I made myself a cup of tea with milk and a tea bag, then went back to my room.

As I took a sip while checking my emails, I frowned.
“Yuck,” I muttered. The taste wasn’t right — I must have messed up the mixture. I immediately went back to the pantry and emptied the cup.

“What happened, Maidam?” asked Mitoo.

“Nothing,” I replied. “I just didn’t like my tea — I think I added too much sugar.”

“I’ll make it for you, Maidam,” Mitoo offered politely.

“Umm, it’s okay, let it be. Please just give me a cup of green tea instead. I’ll try that.”

“Okay, here you go, Maidam,” he said, handing me the cup.

“Thanks, Mitoo! That’s so nice of you.” I smiled, then added playfully, “By the way, you should say Madam, not Maidam.”

“Yes, Madam!” he replied quickly, smiling back.

I took my cup and went back to my room. After taking a sip, I realized it was quite bitter—probably because it was my first time trying green tea. Still, I thought to myself that it was better than the overly sweet milk tea I had made earlier.

Every morning after that, I continued drinking green tea, telling myself, “This is better than any of the other teas or coffees in the pantry.”

After about a month, I noticed that I was drinking my green tea happily, without any complaints. That’s when I remembered what Robin Sharma, the motivational speaker, once said: if you want to turn something into a habit, practice it consistently for 21 days without missing a single day.

I suppose it worked for me—having green tea had become part of my daily routine.

One day, my friend Cumhur Samiloglu, a Turkish national, and I went to the pantry to grab some coffee.

Mitoo greeted my friend with a cheerful “Günaydın!” (Good morning in Turkish).

Günaydın! Nasılsın?” (“How are you?”) replied Cumhur.

İyiyim, sen nasılsın?” (“I’m good, how are you?”) Mitoo answered back.

I was taken aback—I hadn’t expected Mitoo to speak Turkish!

“You’re Bangladeshi, right?” I asked in surprise.

“Yes, Madam,” he replied politely.

“Mitoo, I can understand you speaking Hindi,” I said. “There are many Indians around, and besides, most of us are fascinated by Bollywood movies. So, learning Hindi isn’t a big deal for Bangladeshis.

But Turkish? How come?” I asked, my face showing a mix of curiosity and amazement.

He replied with a gentle smile on his face and said,
“English Turkish people also come to the pantry for tea, Turkish coffee, or water. Since I work in the hospitality sector, I must always greet and treat everyone kindly, with a gentle smile and a respectful response.

But when I first came here, I couldn’t understand either English or Turkish. In this office wing, there are more Goras and Turkish nationals than other nationalities, so I had no choice but to learn. In the beginning, I had plenty of free time, as there weren’t many people around. Later, when the team size increased, the workload grew too.

So, I started repeating the words they said. The next day, I would greet them in their own language—just two lines: ‘Good morning’ and ‘How are you?’ That’s how I took my first step toward learning different languages.”

“Hmm… Tusi great ho, Mitoo!” I said, smiling in admiration.

I was genuinely impressed. “What’s your educational qualification, Mitoo?”

“I didn’t study much, Madam,” he replied, still smiling. “I left school early.”

“So, how many languages can you speak fluently?” I asked.

“Bengali, my mother tongue,” he began, “Hindi, Arabic, Turkish, and English.”

“Wow… and what’s next?” I asked with curiosity.

“Nothing much, Madam,” he said. “I’m just waiting for the right opportunity to join a big company. I really want to work with computers. I’m learning from my supervisor now.”

“Good, Mitoo. Keep it up—always aim high!” I encouraged him.

Cumhur added, “Büyük düşün, Mitoo!” (“Dream big, Mitoo!”) and left with a smile.

I asked, “What else do you do after office hours?”

“Every day after work, I go to the gym,” he said. “We have a few gym machines in our labor camp.”

“That’s great, Mitoo. It seems your company takes good care of you all. Nice—keep up the good work!” I said warmly.

When I returned to my office, I thought to myself:

If one can dream of something and truly believe in it, nothing can stop them. Here’s a young man who, just by listening and interacting with people, learned three to four languages with such ease. Truly commendable! These are the people who have the real thirst to achieve something great in life—and who, one day, will succeed by working toward their dreams, little by little, every single day.

Years later, as the project was nearing completion, Mitoo’s manager encouraged him to attend an interview for an airport services position. Out of nearly 200 candidates, he was one of the ten or fifteen selected—thanks to his welcoming attitude, pleasant personality, and the multiple language speaking skills he had developed over the years.

He joined the new company, where he received professional training and further grooming. Recognizing his language abilities, his new manager soon asked him to lead a team.

This is the story of Mitoo—simple, yet deeply inspiring. It taught me an invaluable lesson and, I believe, holds inspiration for many who often think, “I didn’t study enough” or “I don’t have a degree.”

Mitoo’s journey proves that if you have a strong desire to achieve something meaningful in life, you must take action yourself. Stop underestimating your potential or wasting your most precious assets—time and health.

The small steps we take each day—whether to learn something new, explore a curiosity, or simply for fun—eventually guide us toward our bigger goals.

Keep doing what you love. Keep learning. One day, opportunity will surely knock on your door!

By the way, Mitoo's name is Abrahim. He is working for Prime Class Lounge at an International Airport.


Friday, 8 November 2019

A perfect morning with my friend!

Today 8th November 2019, my friend Ramya and I together  set and achieved a target ,a WALKATHON  from my apartment in Al Khuwair  to Qurum  Hayat beach and  back to Al khuwair covering 10.44 km    

Started early morning at 5.30 AM dawn enjoying the beautiful weather, allée of trees on both sides of the road, watching those  welcoming beautiful flowers ,well maintained roads without any trace of trash, picturesque landscape, everything looks perfect.

Felt an abrupt  change in weather by a  kind of drizzle touching our feet, but it was sprinklers which commenced their job of keeping the grass moist.

Between, need to cross the road to reach the destination. no one on the road , just two of us in the junction of four roads. It's a strange and happy feeling because
 daily we used to be surrounded by people , vehicles and the busyness of life but at this moment it was an experience of serene surroundings and tranquility.

Finally  reached the beautiful beach by 6.20 AM. Felt a kind of achievement.



Sat on a bench relaxing and observing the beautiful Arabian sea and surroundings.

One  Omani family arrived,spread their mat ,chairs and enjoying the good weather having  Karak chai /Omani coffee,  there are walkers, few joggers , everyone are in their own way of feeling content.

On the way back home, we had a delicious
 breakfast in the  French Bakery!



Finally concluded the Walkathon reaching the apartment.

A perfect morning with my  Friend Ramya !

This is a great  "Ladies day out" idea!   Isn't it?

Friday, 25 October 2019

Overcoming Pike Syndrome!


My friend Manasa, she is very pretty has thick and silky hair that hangs a little bit below her shoulders and few hair hangs on one side of her face which gives a good look and prettier like Vidya Balan in ‘Lageraho Munnabhai’  movie. 

In college we were group of friends and used to call her ‘Beauty ‘and used to tease her a lot and had lots of fun especially in the hostel. She is very sportive, beautiful, intelligent, fun and full of life. She used to work in Hyderabad for a construction firm before leaving to USA after marriage and has two kids Sanvi (8 year old) and Anand (6 year old).

She used to tell me that ‘She is Desi and her kids are Angreji’. 

When I asked her about this, she said,’ they born in Chicago and speaks English. Even when she insisted to learn Telugu, her mother tongue they say ‘Chill mom’.

One day, she told Sanvi to learn dessert names in Telugu in a hope of cropping an interest for language.

Hmm ‘okay Mom’ said Sanvi.

She showed a ‘Laddoo’ and ask her to repeat the name Laddoo

Sanvi said ‘Laadoo’.

Sanvi repeated ‘Laadoo’ irrespective of her efforts. Finally Manasa said to herself if I do this more, it looks like I am gonna forget Telugu. Better I should think something innovative to teach them the language.

Poor girl…. her efforts are ON even today.

She called me one day and said ‘Anu I need your help’.

What happened Manasa ? Is there any good news of third baby? Do I need to do baby sit?

Umm….nothing like that. Baby sit is not an easy job dear. It will be a roller coaster ride with my kids and you will run away in few days…

Hmm….

Jokes apart, what’s the matter dear? Is everything alright?

Yes Anu. Just want to share with you my feelings and thoughts.

Hmm.. go ahead  I am all ears!

‘It’s been more than 7 years coming to States and I didn’t do anything to upgrade my knowledge and skills. I prepared for TOEFL and GRE to get admission in to MS when I came here in 2008, somehow it didn’t materialize and now I am feeling like I am where I was then when I left Hyderabad. I had such a long gap from work & studies and lost touch what can I do now?

It’s not like for the first time I felt this, almost every year I feel like filling up the form of admission in spring or Autumn but...

I feel like still I have some more time as kids need to understand and do their works by their own and of course I don’t have any regrets that I had given entire time to the family as Family is my biggest strength.

But now I feel yes it’s time I want to push myself and need to stop further postponing enrolling in to MS but not happening. Suggest me few  meditation courses or something as my mind is continuously thinking about this and struggling with me , I feel like depressed or something which I am not sure what it is and  am not at all feeling good..."

She poured her heart out but I don’t know how to console her. Somehow I said, ‘you should try Raja yoga and google it for meditation centers which are there in Chicago near to your place. Also, you may try in you tube for meditation courses.’

I remember saying, 'listen to music and busy yourself by doing something u like painting, fitness etc...'

Anu I am not interested in any of these things...just I want to calm down my mind...

I was in touch with her for some days on and off giving moral support and somehow we got busy in our lives and lost touch.

After an year, She called and said she got admission in Loyola University Chicago

Wow dear..I am so happy for you. How come you did this?

Manasa said, ‘Anu, I just told to myself loudly that,’ I can do it; I will do this and no more procrastination. This is my Decision’.

Bob Proctor, Motivational Speaker in one of his videos explained that

 First step is ‘Make the decision and be there. And that’s really what you have to do’.

‘The second you make a decision, you flip your brain on to a different frequency and you start to attract things to you that you'd never get without making the decision.’

“You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution. Change is inevitable, personal growth is always a personal decision.” – Bob Proctor

This is all I did Anu and now I am where I wanted to be. I am Happy and content now. This principle applies to any circumstance, anything you want to achieve.

Finally, she had broken her glass barrier and took the first step of realizing her potential. No more a surrendered Pike.

I am trying my best to break the glass ceiling? Are you ?

Pike syndrome


You may have heard of the famous research experiment where a northern pike (a fish) was placed in one-half of a large aquarium, with numerous minnows swimming freely (and visibly) in the other half of the glass divided tank.  As the pike became hungrier, it made numerous unsuccessful efforts to eat the minnows, but only succeeded in battering its snout against the glass divider.  Slowly the pike learned that reaching the minnows was an impossible task, and simply gave up.  When the glass partition was removed, the pike surprisingly didn’t attack the minnows even though they swam freely around the tank.

Many of us fail to push past our self-imposed barriers of limitation.

Awareness is the first step.



Bibliography :

Source of my inspiration: My friend Nishant

https://www.annegradygroup.com/are-you-a-victim-of-the-pike-syndrome/



Wednesday, 21 August 2019

Expressing gratitude for being my friend Mitya!



Remembering our initial days of knowing each other :

At the very first day of our meeting in Vedanta, Jharsuguda, I felt , I should be very careful and stay away from you  as you look very stout and tall and thought that if you get angry , you may even lift me and throw me just like Hulk😉!

But eventually,  I got to know about your nature and the best part I like in you is you make every one around you laugh and smile by cracking funny jokes. Ofcourse , over a  period of time we became good friends.

I learned few Gujarati words from you, 'Kem Bapu maja mane' though i didn't know the meaning of this line then, I used to use on you and nanu.And few more words like Dobi , doba etc...

Those days are really fun!!  Being my first job, that too away from Andhra Pradesh without knowing Hindi and Odiya, managing in english and learning Hindi from you guys and contractors ,above all these Gujarati words....it's like roller coaster ride 🙂 and now i feel how time flies in a flash of second !!

Time passed by and you left Vedanta to join BEC and came to Muscat in 2009

After I think three years...... 

With your reference,  Amit got an offer in BEC and we came to Muscat,Oman joining you.

I am grateful for getting the opportunity to explore this side (middle east Muscat, Oman) of the world far from my home in India. I am thankful to you my friend  Amit Dhudhaiya aka Mitya.

Days in Muscat:

 You took us to almost all the places in and around Muscat and the most memorable one was one night stay at the resort in Jebel Shams where we had lot of fun (those pictures of yours ,neelam ,Amit and mine and the beautiful mountains of Jebel Shams and those moments are still afresh in my eyes) 

Also,I must say, I  got intrigued in to photography  being in your company , I discovered my interest  in this and started  taking pictures in various angles to enhance my  creativity which I never experimented before. This was a new learning for me 😃!!!
 
Though there are few difficult times due to misunderstandings, we let go those and maintained our friendship with flying colors.

Thank you  my friend Mitya for being my friend!!🤔😂🙂😎

My Dearest Friend and her Determination

Shabnam , my friend and walking partner, she is 38 years old ,5.2' height with a beautiful welcoming smile on her face  and  so enthusiastic. She got married little earlier than the current trend in India and has two kids  Alisha 15 &  Ali 9 year old.

“I love to listen and she loves to talk”

We enjoy each other’s company sharing our views on different topics like our families , the places we belong to in India, our traditions etc and we laugh out loud from the core of our heart on simple jokes ,but one thing  she always says  that she want to learn and explore  many things  but didn't get an opportunity to do so.


Our Apartment is provided with open Car parking area and good enough space for walking, riding bicycles and a Shuttle court in between A and B block buildings. 

Children ride bicycles inside the compound daily. So one day, I felt like riding it as it’s been so long and  so I borrowed a bicycle from one of my friends daughter and started riding. Shabnam said,' I too want to  Anu but I  didn't get a chance to learn and  moreover this is not my age to learn cycle ,I should have learned it when I was a kid' .

'Age doesn't matter just try at least once ' I said.

But she didn't listen. Few days passed she watched me riding cycle and she walked her routine 3 km target. One day, I said  'Come dear I will help you riding cycle', then she started initially with

NO..

then OK...

then finally she said YES I will do it....

She continued practicing her son Ali's cycle , her husband too started helping her seeing her WILL to learn ...normally weekends I took off from walking so in the evening I got ready for shopping with my family and we came downstairs to get into the car.

To my surprise, i saw Shabnam practicing riding cycle.

I told her 'you should take rest at least in the weekends’, her answer is  EPIC.

'Anu I just started learning how can I leave it unless I completely learn and ride by my own'.

Wow!  'Her determination to learn something new has been admirable'.

 Sri Sri Ravi Shankar rightly said, 'everyone should try to retain their childlike wonder’

Finally, she learned riding bicycle in just 10 days and she didn't stop there she learned basic swimming and finally her wish to see the world also came true...

She is travelling to London and Europe in August 2019 month with her family....

"Dream is not that which you see while sleeping it is something that does not let you sleep.” ― A P J Abdul Kalam


I wish you all the very best for your future endeavors dear!



This is the story of my friend and her determination. This proves that 'Age is just a number and it could not stop one from learning new things.'


Wednesday, 14 February 2018

My First Visual Inspiration


 2005,  I was in my 3rd year of Engineering, preparing for GATE, the entrance examination for 'M-Tech ( Masters in Technology). The results were out for my Seniors (Final year ), who appeared for GATE. That day, I was passing thru the newly built Computer lab in Civil Engineering department, my friend Manasa called me in,  to accompany her in the lab, to check some stuff related to paper presentations. 

While she was surfing the internet, I observed, few of my seniors, who wrote GATE were eagerly waiting for their result,  as if the whole nation is waiting, sitting in front of television sets for Sachin Tendulkar Sixer.

Due to busy on the network, it's taking more time to display the results.  

That's the moment, I saw  Krishna Chaitanya, my senior, who is so excited and so positive about the result, I was just observing, how a person can be that confident. All of a sudden,  the one who is checking the result on the Computer screen screamed 'Chaitu', you nailed it. Admission in IIT (Indian Institute of Technology, the prestigious institute in India) will be confirmed. His reaction was amazing, Krishna Chaitanya with full of confidence shouted YES YES, I MADE IT, clenching fist, moving his right hand downwards and upwards, as if he lifted the Cricket World Cup!!

I was like watching him, his reaction, his movements.And, I just thought for a second, Maybe this is the taste of Success, which  I too wanted a modicum of it. This visual was captured in my subconscious mind and throughout my preparation of one year for this entrance exam,  this was the visual keep rewinding in my head and reminds me of my goal. 

Literally, I started seeing my self in Chaitanya's  place and saying YES,  I did it. And, the day has come, I was standing in the same place, where he stood, and checking my result,  My friend Manasa was beside me, I was so tensed, but she held my hand and said, Anu, you will get it..Just believe in yourself, mocked like Amitabh Bachan in 'Kaun Banega Crorepati'. Finally, the GATE result appeared on the screen.

Manasa said confirm Anu, you will get it in IIT for sure. Your rank is 613. I felt very happy that, though I am not expressive like him,  I  said to myself, YES, I made it.

I learned about the importance of visualization very much later in my life after reading 'THE SECRET' book by Rhonda Byrne. Though I was unaware of this concept of visualization in the year 2005, I understood now,  that my success in clearing GATE exam was my visualization, which is very clear towards my goal.


Thank you very much, Krishna Chaitanya  Annaya for inspiring me. 

“The reason visualization is so powerful is because as you create pictures in your mind of seeing yourself with what it is you want, you are generating thoughts and feelings of having it now.” –The Secret

Monday, 1 January 2018

Beautiful Old Traditional clay Houses in Misfat Al Abriyeen

Beautiful Old Traditional clay Houses in Misfat Al Abriyeen with lanterns and clay pots representing Local Omani tradition, surrounding with amazing huge mountains.Manifestly, spending time in this beautiful village is truly a bliss from the busy city life!



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All the credit goes to AOL team due to whom, we were there in that picturesque location enjoying with our families!

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